8 Tips on How to Improve Your Self-Esteem

8 Tips on How to Improve Your Self-Esteem

If you’re struggling with low self-esteem, you’re not alone. Many people feel negative about themselves, and your self-esteem can change from day to day or in different circumstances. If you are struggling with seeing yourself in a positive way, there are simple ways to feel better about yourself. Read on to find out some easy tips to improve your self-esteem and how you see yourself.

The Meaning of Self-Esteem

You probably already have an idea, but let’s start from the basics: what is self-esteem? Self-esteem is a person’s overall sense of their value or worth. It measures how much you value, appreciate or like yourself. Self-esteem can be described as your attitude toward yourself. Different factors can influence self-esteem, like:

  • Genetics
  • Personality
  • Life experiences
  • Age
  • Health
  • Social circumstances

It’s important for you to understand that your sense of self-esteem is not permanent. It can change and get better over time.

Healthy Self-Esteem

Having healthy self-esteem means having a positive view of yourself and accepting yourself fully with all the imperfections, mistakes or ‘bad’ behaviour or emotions. This self-acceptance helps you to stick to your life goals. It also makes you believe in your ability to deal with your problems and ask for help when needed. With positive self-esteem, you can think clearly, make good choices, enjoy relationships with friends and family, and deal with life’s challenges.

If your self-esteem is low, any negative feedback from your coworkers or when you eat too much unhealthy food, or skip your exercise class, affects how you feel about yourself. You ‘know’ that making mistakes is normal. But you still ‘feel’ bad about yourself and bee yourself up. Healthy self-esteem helps you recover and keep moving towards your goals, even after setbacks.

Low Self-Esteem

Low self-esteem causes you to worry about not being good enough. This can make color everything in your life in a negative way. The way you think affects your self-esteem the most. If you believe you ‘can’t’ do or get something that others can (get that particular job for instance) or always focus on your flaws, you are more likely to have low self-esteem. Improving your self-esteem is not easy, but possible, and it will change your life for the better. You will become more proactive, start making new friends, make better and healthier choices, solve problems more effectively, and start sharing your ideas and opinions without fear of being judged.

How to Improve Your Self-Esteem

Your sense of worth doesn’t depend on your successes. Bigger and better ‘stuff’, amount of followers and likes won’t boost your self-esteem. It can give you temporary satisfaction but won’t build your esteem as it can bring only external validation. You need to rebuild your confidence at your core because your self-esteem is built on your core beliefs about yourself.

The good news is that you have all the skills to build a more positive self-image of yourself. While this might seem hard at first, practicing self-understanding and acceptance helps a big time. A counsellor can help you to deal with traumatic experiences that might have caused you to see yourself in a negative way. In a therapy session, you will be practicing replacing your negative beliefs about yourself with more positive ones, forgiving yourself for past mistakes and finding compassion. However, it’s a collaborative work. No one knows you better than you do. Only you know what makes you proud and what makes you feel insecure. This means that you can boost your self-esteem if you set this goal for yourself.

Building self-esteem starts with changing how you talk about yourself. When you start recognizing your thinking patterns, certain phrases and words you use in relation to yourself, you can change them. Start recognizing your strengths and accepting your weaknesses and past mistakes. Get into your bones that failure is part of learning and growing.

Here are 8 tips to boost your self-esteem.

1. Avoid negative self-talk

You often focus so much on your flaws that you miss your signs of strengths, which can hurt your self-esteem. The next time you notice yourself having negative thoughts, pause and recognize it. Challenge these thoughts by finding evidence that proves them wrong. This change in perspective can help you see yourself in a more positive way.

2. Stop comparing yourself to others

On social media, people often pretend to be someone they’re not. So, when you’re scrolling through your Instagram feed, don’t compare yourself to those who are more ‘successful’. If you start wishing you were someone else, take a moment to think about what you’ve achieved. Remember, other people’s successes don’t undermine your own achievements.

3. Accept your flaws

No one is perfect, and that includes you. There are always things about yourself that you might wish you could change. To keep these flaws from hurting your self-esteem, try putting them into two groups: flaws you can work on and flaws you can’t. By accepting yourself as who you are, you will find inner peace and start focusing more on your strengths rather than your weaknesses.

4. Set manageable goals

When you set goals for your future, it helps you feel good when you achieve them. But if you aim too high and don’t reach them, it can make you feel negative about yourself. So, it’s best to pick goals that are challenging but not impossible. This way, you can keep making progress without getting discouraged. Breaking big goals into smaller ones also helps you stay on track and feel good about what you’re doing. Just remember, every step forward counts, and it’s okay to take things one step at a time.

5. Practice self-care

Having a self-care plan is really important for you. Even if you’re super busy, it’s good to take a few minutes each day to do things that make you feel calm and happy. This could be going for a walk, reading a nice book, or cooking a healthy meal. Also, make sure to take care of your body by getting enough sleep, eating good food, and keeping things clean. Doing these things regularly can really boost how you feel about yourself.

6. Exercise

Exercise is good for both your body and mind. When you move your body, it releases feel-good chemicals called endorphins. You don’t have to exercise for a long time to feel better. Just taking a short walk or dancing around can make you feel happier and healthier.

7. Celebrate small things

Celebrating the small wins can make you feel good about yourself. Here’s an easy way to do it: Every day, write down three things you did well. It could be finishing a task, being nice to someone, or making progress on a goal. By doing this, you’ll boost your self-esteem and feel better about yourself over time.

8. Surround yourself with supportive people

Being around people who cheer you on and make you feel good about yourself is very important. Look for people who are positive and make you feel happy when you’re with them, whether you’re hanging out in person or chatting online. Make an effort to spend more time with these kinds of people. Building relationships with them can boost your self-esteem and help you do your best.

Get Personalized Tips from a Counsellor to Improve Self-esteem

Boosting your self-esteem can take time, but if you stay committed to loving yourself, your confidence will improve. For extra help, you can talk to a licensed counsellor who can create a personalized plan to boost your self-esteem. Having a professional with experience in helping people build a healthy sense of self can set you up for success.

If you need a confidence boost or think your lack of confidence may be due to deeper mental health issues, counselling therapy might be a good and comfortable option. Counselling lets you get advice and treatment in person or over the phone or through video calls, which can be easier if you’re feeling low on confidence. Online counselling is just as effective as in-person therapy.

Modern Therapy Can Help You Improve Your Self-Esteem

Do you feel low on confidence or struggle with self-esteem? At Modern Therapy in Vancouver, we can help you feel better about yourself. Our friendly therapists are experts in self-esteem counselling and are here to support you.

We know that having low self-esteem can affect many parts of your life, like your relationships and your job. Here’s how we can help:

  • Custom Therapy Plans: We create a special therapy plan just for you, focusing on your personal needs.
  • Proven Techniques: We use techniques that are proven to help boost your confidence and self-esteem.
  • Supportive Environment: Our Vancouver counselling clinic is a safe place where you can talk about your feelings and work through your challenges without fear of being judged.
  • Ongoing Support: We provide continuous support to help you maintain your self-esteem and confidence even after your therapy sessions end.

Don’t let low self-esteem hold you back. Learn what high self-esteem really means with our personalized treatment plans. Contact Modern Therapy today to schedule your consultation and start feeling more confident and empowered!

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