Couples counselling

What are the main issues the couples are coming with?

The main issue people are coming for couples counselling is broken communication. They say ‘we just don’t hear each other and we are going in circles’. If your partner doesn’t hear what you are saying, in time you feel more frustrated and more alone. 

How couples counselling online looks like

couples counselling online

We meet, usually, once a week by video. Together with the therapist you will learn and practice new skills: recognizing what’s behind your partner’s defensiveness. You will also learn to ask for what you need in a way that your partner responds to your needs. One of the tasks of couples therapy is to change that rigid habitual pattern of communication that doesn’t resolve anything but bring more distress and disconnection. 

We will show you how to trace that cycle of distress so you can notice the alarm right away and respond differently. 

You will learn very practical tools to deepen intimacy with your partner and keep that communication open. In couples therapy, you will learn a lot about yourself and your partner and start connecting on a deeper level. 

Don’t wait till it’s too late. All that you need is to commit to one session. Then you can decide whether this is for you. 

What are the therapeutic approaches you use to help couples? 

The main therapeutic approaches we are using in couple’s therapy that make the most sense to us are EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy), The Gottman Method Couples Therapy and Developmental Model for Couples therapy. We see these approaches to be complementing each other in achieving the relationship goals, such as improving communication, deepening intimacy and strengthening emotional connection between partners.

How to prepare for couples therapy?

Keep in mind that couples therapy is not a place to find out ‘who is wrong’ and discuss ‘who said what’. For an experienced therapist, there is no need to tell about all the arguments you had before you came for therapy. Usually, we see the patterns right away and ready to help you to understand your and your partner’s reactions, why you behave a certain way and what you should be doing differently. 

Please allow your therapist to interrupt you and lead you through the process of change. The less ‘stories’ we hear during the session the faster you will achieve your goal.

How to choose a good couple’s therapist?

Your therapist should have formal training and experience in one of the main couples therapies such as EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy ) and The Gottman Method. They both have profound training and a good success rate. 

How long does it take?

It depends on your situation and willingness to practice new skills. 10-15 sessions might be sufficient to help you to change the way you communicate, however, we know couples who come to see a therapist on a regular basis just to check-in.