Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) and The Gottman Method

Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) and The Gottman Method are two main therapeutic models successfully used in therapy to improve marriage and relationships. While EFT is focused on emotional regulation and emotion awareness, The Gottman method offers practical tools to create more positive experiences between the partners. 

Emotionally focused therapy and Gottman method

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

Emotionally-focused therapy (EFT) is a therapeutic approach to couples therapy rooted in attachment and bonding theories where emotions are seen as a guide for our behaviour. While there are no therapies that ignore emotions, Emotionally-focused therapy is based on the idea that emotions are not just playing an important role in our lives, but also are the key to who we are. Avoiding unpleasant emotions is what disconnects us from our partner. EFT offers strategies to effectively cope with, regulate and transform them into more adaptive emotions.

The goals of EFT is to increase awareness of emotion and then enhance emotion regulation, which is a vital part of EFT therapy. 

The EFT therapist will help you and your partner to learn to regulate and cope with difficult or intense emotions and practice new skills during the therapy sessions.

The Gottman Method For Healthy Relationships

The Gottman Method for Healthy Relationships helps to change negative emotions such as defensiveness and contempt into positive emotions to help to build the bond between partners. It’s a structured therapy that usually starts with an assessment and includes many practical skills that you and your partner will learn in the therapy environments and then practice between the sessions.

The Sound Relationship House Theory is the foundation of the Gottman Method which is comprised of seven levels of relationship development.

sound relationship house

Do these therapies work together? 

We found these two approaches to work very well and complement each other. EFT helping to develop emotional attunement and building secure attachment between partners. The Gottman method provides structure and teaches new ways of interaction.